Dating After Divorce: 3 pitfalls to look out forLifestyle The List
A whopping 67 percent of second marriages end in divorce. Clinical psychologist, Dr. Michelle Golland has her top pitfalls to avoid when casting your pole back out into the sea of love and she’s sharing them with Kristina Guerrero.
1. Comparing Everyone to Your Ex
If you think everybody sucks like your ex, you're not taking responsibility for your part in the divorce. It can also go the other way. When you're dating post-divorce, you might compare everybody to the fantasy version of your ex. This isn't healthy because it isn't true and you're not grieving the end of your marriage in a real way. Taking time to grieve and process the loss will help you see others as they really are.
2. Introducing Your Children to Your New Partner Too Soon
Your children did not want a divorce. It's your responsibility to be the grown up and to protect your children from any more chaos. When should you introduce your children? Nobody should be meeting your children unless you've been dating exclusive for at least 10 months according to Dr. Michelle. When you introduce your new significant other you want to first do it in a group setting and introduce them as a friend to ease them into the situation.
3. Dating to Fill Emptiness
Dating to fill your time is way of avoiding getting to know yourself and not really exploring how this divorce has changed you. We all need to be comfortable being alone with ourselves. If you find your time being busy and unfulfilled with dating, step away from the bars, get off the apps and take time to really get to know you.
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